Begin to defy the lie by bringing the defining story out of the shadows and into plain sight. As I say this, perhaps you’re already flashing to yours, or at least have a sense of it. It exists in the area of your life where you’re disempowered and joyless, where you’ve resigned yourself to, This is just how it is. You don’t need to look far and wide for the story’s impact; it’s actually right in front of you, in the obviousness of your everyday circumstances. Any outdoor area would be made more child friendly with playground equipment such as these.
If you say that you don’t know what the root story is, you do … you just have to really want to see it. It can be something mundane, like your parents telling you to stay away from the crib because you’ll hurt your baby brother, a teacher yelling at you for something you didn’t do, or a kid making a passing comment that led you to make a judgment about yourself. Unearthing this story and bringing it into view is the first essential step to letting it go. Imagine waking up on Christmas day and seeing outdoor fitness equipment in your back garden?
The second essential step in defying your lie is declaring a new way of being. In my training, I often tell participants that if they want to be inspiring leaders or teachers, it’s not about learning techniques or convincing someone of something. Instead, it’s about who they are and letting inspiration come from that. Your genius will come from tapping into a brilliant way of being, where your perspective, thoughts, feelings, and actions are all consistent with what glows genuinely and brightly in your heart. Children love playing on monkey bars - didn't you when you were younger?
Earlier we talked about the power of declaration. Declaration is a sacred form of self-expression that uses language to initiate change and transform intention into reality. This isn’t about setting goals or objectives; it’s something more personal, from your essence and of the heart.
When you’re stuck inside your limiting point of view, you don’t experience it as a lie.
You experience it as the truth, and its rigidity constrains you to only what the present tells you is possible. That’s why it’s so important to use the power of declaration to separate out the real you from the lie. When you take a stand and declare a new way of being, you open a portal to a new pathway of possibility. And then from there you’ll begin living into that possibility. You’ll be walking the talk, so to speak.
In Baptiste programs, we do an exercise that centers on the practice of a particular type of declaration that has the power to re-create who you are for yourself and for others. This is an opportunity to use language to create clarity and an authentic foundation from which to move forward.
Begin by locating an area of your life where you want a breakthrough, and then get clear on whatever new way of being you want to embody. It’s the true north in your heart. The “languaging” is a key component here, since there’s a difference between “being something” and a “way of being.” Being something is a layer, or something you put on; being of something comes from the depth of your essence. So you want your new way of being to be “of a way,” “from a space of,” or “a new world of.”